Tuesday, June 23, 2009

I smell Gas!

I think I smell gas?

Gaslighting - A Little Known Form of Abuse: Written by Sierra Koester

“Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse or brainwashing where one individual attempts to get another individual to believe she is "crazy". This is most often done through the denial of facts, events, or what one did or did not say. The gaslighter might also directly or indirectly imply that the individual is defective, crazy, or suffers from a mental illness.”

I believe Dorothy Chambers is able to help us in understanding how gaslighting is used and her attempts to gaslight me. I also believe how she recruited her new boyfriend to help in this and possibility others in her attempts in gaslighting.

-Personal Journal Part 1- Special note to self

[Some time in April 2006 when I got my cell phone turn back on I started receiving strange calls from unknown people. Example, Some man called and said that Tracfone (the carrier I use) mess up his order and gave me his cell number (I know now that this would never happen, phone numbers are given when you activate your cell phone and then add minutes to you prepaid phone and after not using the cell for a long time.) he requested that any calls I received to give them his new cell number. I informed him I wouldn’t be able to do that, and hung up. On Mother’s day. Some women called my cell phone claiming to be my mother, calling me by a different name. I informed the women that I wasn’t her son and hung up. Dorothy was here and said *“see you keep getting calls all the time” as too imply that it was my girlfriend or someone I knew. The Strange cell phone calls stop when Dorothy left me on 5/22/2006. So that I come to believe that Dorothy for some reason, gave her boyfriend (Paul Worman) my cell number. Why she would do this is totally unknown to me. I know I can’t prove this but the coincidence is to great to ignore. Dorothy Chambers is now trying to get me to give her my new home phone number. I talked with my son Joshua about this and he replied no way! I agree with Joshua’s decision. Giving Dorothy our phone number would not be in our best interest right now.]

An attempt to Gaslight?

Like it states in the journal this started around April 2006 a few months before Dorothy Chambers inform her children and I on May 22, 2006 that she was leaving to live with her parents which we all know now was a lie. That in fact she left the state of Illinois and moved in with her boyfriend in Wisconsin something in fact she herself informed my *sister during one cell conversation with my sister during an event to return yet more of her property.

Having this dude call me out of the blue and then trying to con me into relating his calls to him and that I would “soon” be receiving calls on my cell that was meant for him because our cell phone numbers were somehow messed up and how the carrier messed up this account as when giving him my cell number instead of issuing a new cell number for his “new” account. The question I asked myself at the time was is “why this fool was calling me when he should in fact be addressing his account problems with the cell phone carrier and not a perfect stranger? Really it never made any sense then and it still makes no sense today.

The only coincidence we had was we both had the same cell phone carrier as stated by the caller.

One note to readers is that this happen before she “went to a hair show with her sister and her mother" on Mother’s day. I did call the phone carrier and the technical department informed me that something like this could never happen because of the way the system is set up whenever a new account becomes active. In short the caller lied.

I believe this dude was setting me up for whatever reason and in fact I did start to receive some “unknown” cell calls but would just ignore them and not answer. I believe this “gaslighting” was to keep tags on me remotely so that if I did receive a cell call for whatever reason this fool thought I would be stupid enough to call him and let him know what callers wanted and rely the message back to him. Gaslighting is attempting to keep someone off balance both emotionally and psychologically. This phone tag would do just that but it didn’t work. The fool might have thought he knew me but really didn’t, thinking I would be so shortsighted and foolish enough to fall for such a simply con. Now there is really no way to prove it but it is my opinion that the caller was in fact Paul Worman.

I believe for whatever reason this was an attempt to gaslight me by Paul Worman and Dorothy herself.. Dorothy knew I never had in the past received a lot of cell phone calls. That in fact I had most people I knew to call my land line phone number when I was home or leave a message if I was at work. My cell was for family business and emergency purposes only. Dorothy Chamber knew this.

Dorothy also knew I never answered any unknown cell calls ever and plus my employer discourage cell usage during business hours so my cell was on vibrate only and still unless Dorothy called me (which she use to do a lot, understanding now how she was checking up on me) on my cell at work I receive very little cell phone calls other then these calls she made herself. This can be done easily enough by checking my cell for all recent inbound calls.

Yet as stated by Dorothy Chamber *“see you keep getting calls all the time implies that I did in fact received numerous calls on my cell and it was *“all the time“. What is also very interesting is that when she made this statement about receiving “numerous calls on my cell” this happen after she return back home very late on Mother’s day after going to some kind of “hair show”. Which was just another lie told to my children and I. That I believe she went to Wisconsin and spend the night there with her boyfriend Paul Worman.

I believe Dorothy Chambers had someone (female) call me around that time because I would received this call when she was there and I believe she wanted to be there when I received this call. Really, for me it’s too much of a coincidences to be a coincidences. Like it states “gaslighting” is an attempt to keep someone off balance both emotionally and psychologically.

Another coincidence is how after Dorothy Chamber left all these “strange” calls stopped.

*([Journal part 2] Dorothy stated: “I live in Wisconsin now and can’t keep coming back to Illinois” (Judy later told me that she could hear voices in the background telling her not to tell her about Wisconsin). Judy replied back “you live in Wisconsin?”. Dorothy confirmed that.

This happen while both of us were in the process of returning yet more of her property.

Let’s use another example of gaslighting that Dorothy Chambers tried to use on me. Again to be clear on facts I will use my journal to illustrate how she tried in her attempts to gaslight me:


-Personal Journal Part 2-


[Dorothy again talked about her property again. I told her I would return it when we got together on Saturday. Ask her if she wanted anything else she didn’t reply, so I then just hung up the phone!]


(Dorothy called back on Friday.)

[Dorothy called back on Friday. I informed her that the therapist thought the children meeting her so soon after her leaving would not be a good ideal (this was a lie, I just needed more time on custody research and the children didn‘t want to see her) she then stated that I was lying (this time she was right, can’t be wrong all the time) and demanded the phone number for the therapist. I told her it was Aunt’s Martha’s Youth Service and gave her the number. Dorothy then demanded her property that day. I told her that wasn’t part of our agreement, that the reason I asked her to call back on Friday was give her the information as to were we would meet and return property on Saturday. I had prearranged with Judy that she would come to my home after work on Friday to pick what was here (some boxes were in Judy’s home and some it was here in Elgin) and then to spend the night at her place and then I would do all this on Saturday. Dorothy at the time didn’t know about my arrangements with Judy. Dorothy again stated that I (1)“was changing things” and accused me of (2)“lying“. And stated that I said she would get her property on Friday which I never did.]

Now when we talked on June 5th we both agree that she would be able to receive more of her property on Saturday June 10th of that week. That I wanted her to call me on Friday just to confirm the pickup on Saturday and time. Dorothy tried to make me believe that in fact I didn’t say that and was (1)“changing things” and even told me flat out that I was in fact (2)“lying to her“. She tried to convince me of her “reality” and dismissed my recall of the prearranged agreement made on June 5th.

Now Dorothy Chambers didn’t have any knowledge of my personal journal so she didn’t know I was keeping track of our conversations with time and date stamps on them. So Dorothy Chamber thought she could just “gaslight” me into believing I did in fact tell her she could get her property on Friday not Saturday as previously agreed.

Another thing Dorothy Chambers had no knowledge of is that I prearranged with my sister to meet me on Friday so that we could get what property was at my home and bring it to her house where the rest of Dorothy Chamber's property were at, in fact it was sitting in my sisters’ garage and that we would return her property on Saturday June 10th. Another thing Dorothy Chambers also didn’t know was that the children and I was planning on spending the weekend at my sister’s home for a family visit.

None of these facts Dorothy Chambers had knowledge of so again her attempts at gaslighting me failed. Dorothy Chambers did in fact receive her property on Friday not Saturday so in this she was successful. One other point is how what she wanted was more important to her and had no empathy that her request by rushing the pickup might be a burden on her family including my sister.

What really surprised me is how later I was told by her how they never left the state of Illinois but instead **stay overnight in a hotel. This show me how Dorothy Chambers tried to gaslight me for they could have just as easily had done all this on Saturday as we agree to in the first place.

Because Dorothy Chambers had no knowledge of this journal at the time and also what she didn’t know was that both my sister and I could just review the journal and confirm what was stated and agree on. Which is something we both did later. We both soon discovered that Dorothy Chamber is in fact a pathological liar and we couldn't trust anything she told us.

**[Personal Journal part 3 06-15-06:] Dorothy stated that after boyfriend and her pick up the property from SHPD, they went to a hotel and spent the night there. Question to self, if they stayed in Illinois overnight, what would have been the problem to pick up her property on Saturday? God, how I hate this shit!

Also to note for readers that if you feel you are being targeted and abused with these gaslighting tactics I recommend keeping a personal diary or journal yourself which can help you keep track of facts, events, or what one did or did not say when dealing with the gaslighter. Also to note that gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse or an attempt to brainwash a person.

"Narcissists 'gaslight' routinely. The narcissist will either insinuate or will tell you outright that you're unstable, oversensitive and hysterical. Once he's constructed these fantasies of your emotional pathologies, he'll tell others about them, as always, presenting his smears as expressions of concern and declaring his own helpless victim hood."

Links: http://www.lisaescott.com/my-first-interview-vain-encounters-la#comment-5391

1 comment:

James said...

I know but what was worst for me is not understanding or having knowledge about what gaslighting is. I do now! But yes, it's all so surreal..